I don't know how many of you do New Years Resolutions, but I do. I personally try to make them something that is better for others rather than better for me, so I don't do "lose 20 pounds" or "drink less". (I'm also not ready to give up good beer and food, so my proposed externalized altruism fits well with that)
My resolution for the next year: Realize how often I objectify women in their appearance, how often I comment on that, and resolve to drastically reduce both. I am not (yet?) a father of daughters, but I've noticed how often I do this and for me it's become too sexist, too judgmental, and too reductionist and it shames me a bit. My own internal justification says I can continue to ogle women that put their attractiveness on display as a a reason for career or personality (models, cheerleaders, saleswomen, etc), but I need to stop looking for it in all women. For a little background on my choice, here is a snippet from a writer and a video he is referencing that really got to me on the subject:
Where My Ladies At? (via thebrainscoop)
It turns out her mail is, well, troubling.
Many of the folks who write her, write not about the science, but about her body, her looks, her clothes, and do so without any apparent embarrassment. She's a science reporter who happens to be a young woman, and her woman-ness is the thing they focus on. The science, to her chagrin, often takes second place.
In her new video, Emily (with help from director and video editor Michael Aranda) gives us samples from her mailbox, She's not mad, not exactly. Instead, she just explains why these matter-of-fact little letter bombs make it harder for her to work, and how they hurt — every single day. And, being Emily, she explains it very well.